tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13956774.post6166283412634724121..comments2023-05-12T07:18:01.917-06:00Comments on Future Me: ConfusionFuture Mehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09159116814887852763noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13956774.post-18652237558052549202009-01-29T07:19:00.000-07:002009-01-29T07:19:00.000-07:00Hey Jeni!!!First - I am SO SORRY about being such ...Hey Jeni!!!<BR/><BR/>First - I am SO SORRY about being such a bad blogger friend. :( I've missed talking to you for sure!!<BR/><BR/>Second - Since I am a mom, I'm going to offer you some advice. And this is meant with all of the love in the world. Do not have a baby because other people tell you that you should. 29 is not old. Heck, I wasn't even married at 29!! :) Children are a blessing, there is NO DOUBT about that, but they change everything FOREVER. There is no way to prepare yourself for being a mom. And even though I knew it was something I always wanted for myself, there was no way to know how hard it would be until you are there. And it's a good hard, like the peace corps or something :), and so worth it, but it is not something to jump into until you are sure in your heart that you are ready. (and yes I realize that tons and tons of people enter into parenthood earlier than they had "planned", and do just wonderfully at it, my point is that if you are making the conscious decision to get pregnant, I think you need to do it because you are SURE that is what YOU want for YOU. Not because of your age, or because you have been married x number of years.)<BR/><BR/>Also, I was heavier than I should have been when I got pregnant with my first child. If you think it is hard now to find time and energy to lose weight, it just (well for me) gets harder after having children. Because like I said - you are living for them then, and taking care of yourself seems to be the easiest thing to let slide. <BR/><BR/>I hope this isn't coming across as offensive, because that is the LAST thing that I want. I just can understand SO well where you are right now. You are not a self absorbed asshole. :) You are spot on for thinking about these things. <BR/><BR/>I'm anxious to catch back up with you and all that is going on. I know that you can get the last of this weight off. We'll do it together!!!!! :)Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12218693906162990875noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13956774.post-20993074800071841432009-01-14T08:05:00.000-07:002009-01-14T08:05:00.000-07:00Oh, Jeni. I'm sending you a big hug.I'm also 29, t...Oh, Jeni. I'm sending you a big hug.<BR/><BR/>I'm also 29, the age my mother was when she had me, and I have to say that this year I have spent more time thinking about babies than any other. I have good reasons for not starting right now, but when I think about it seriously... I feel pretty much the same way as you. It is not a crime not to be ready, or not to know if you are. Or not to want kids at all, come to that. And it strikes me as unfair of your friends to pressurize you. OK, yes, women do not have forever to make this decision. That doesn't mean you can't wait six months or a year at this stage.<BR/><BR/>You will never be "just" someone's wife or mother, I can tell you that. You would be the same person.<BR/><BR/>Hope you feel better soon. January is an awful month; roll on spring!Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14530845147391401083noreply@blogger.com